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The
Delays of Love
by Alexander Maclaren
(1826-1910)
‘Now Jesus
loved Martha, and her sister, and Lazarus. When He had heardtherefore that
he was sick, He abode two days still in the same place where He was.’
John
11:5, 6
WE learn from a later
verse of this chapter that Lazarus had been dead four
days when Christ reached
Bethany. The distance from that village to the
probable place of Christ’s
abode, when He received the message, was
about a day’s journey. If,
therefore, to the two days on which He abode
still after the receipt
of the news, we add the day which the messengers
took to reach Him and the
day which He occupied in travelling, we get the
four days since which Lazarus
had been laid in his grave. Consequently the
probability is that, when
our Lord had the message, the man was dead.
Christ did not remain still,
therefore, in order to work a greater miracle by
raising Lazarus from the
dead than He would have done by healing, but He
stayed — strange as it would
appear — for reasons closely connected with
the highest well-being of
all the beloved three, and because He loved them.
John is always very particular
in his use of that word ‘therefore,’ and he
points out many a subtle
and beautiful connection of cause and effect by his
employment of it. I do not
know that any of them are more significant and
more full of illumination
with regard to the ways of divine providence than
the instance before us.
How these two sisters must have looked down the
rocky road that led up from
Jericho during those four weary days, to see if
there were any signs of
His coming. How strange it must have appeared to
the disciples themselves
that He made no sign of movement,
notwithstanding the message.
Perhaps John’s scrupulous carefulness in
pointing out that His love
was Christ’s reason for His quiescence may
reflect a remembrance of
the doubts that had crept over the minds of
himself and his brethren
during these two days of strange inaction. The
Evangelist will have us
learn a lesson, which reaches far beyond the
instance in hand, and casts
light on many dark places.
I. Christ’s delays are
the delays of love.
We have all of us, I suppose,
had experience of desires for the removal of
bitterness or sorrows, or
for the fulfilment of expectations and wishes,
which we believed, on the
best evidence that we could find, to be in
accordance with His will,
and which we have been able to make prayers
out of, in true faith and
submission, which prayers have had to be offered
over and over and over again,
and no answer has coma It is part of the
method of Providence that
the lifting away of the burden and the coming of
the desires should be a
hope deferred. And instead of stumbling at the
mystery, or feeling as if
it made a great demand upon our faith, would it
not be wiser for us to lay
hold of that little word of the Apostle’s here, and
to see in it a small window
that opens out on to a boundless prospect, and
a glimpse into the very
heart of the divine motives in His dealings with us?
If we could once get that
conviction into our hearts, how quietly we should
go about our work! What
a beautiful and brave patience there would be in
us, if we habitually felt
that the only reason which actuates God’s
providence in its choice
of times of fulfilling our desires and lifting away
our bitterness is our own
good! Nothing but the purest and simplest love,
transparent and without
a fold in it, sways Him in all that He does. Why
should it be so difficult
for us to believe this? If we were more in the way
of looking at life, with
all its often unwelcome duty, and its arrows of pain
and sorrow, and all the
disappointments and other ills that it is heir to, as a
discipline, and were to
think less about the unpleasantness, and more about
the purpose, of what befalls
us, we should find far less difficulty in
understanding that His delay
is born of love, and is a token of His tender
care.
Sorrow is prolonged for the
same reason as it was sent. It is of little use to
send it for a little while.
In the majority of cases, time is an element in its
working its right effect
upon us. If the weight is lifted, the elastic substance
beneath springs up again.
As soon as the wind passes over the cornfield,
the bowing ears raise themselves.
You have to steep foul things in water
for a good while before
the pure liquid washes out the stains. And so time
is an element in all the
good that we get out of the discipline of life.
Therefore, the same love
which sends must necessarily protract, beyond
our desires, the discipline
under which we are put. If we thought of it, as I
have said, more frequently
as discipline and schooling, and less frequently
as pain and a burden, we
should understand the meaning of things a great
deal better than we do,
and should be able to face them with braver hearts,
and with a patient, almost
joyous, endurance.
If we think of some of the
purposes of our sorrows and burdens, we shall
discern still more clearly
that time is needed for accomplishing them, and
that, therefore, love must
delay its coming to take them away. For
example, the object of them
all, and the highest blessing that any of us can
obtain, is that our wills
should be bent until they coincide with God’s, and
that takes time. The shipwright,
when he gets a bit of timber that he wants
to make a ‘knee’ out of,
knows that to mould it into the right form is not
the work of a day. A will
may be broken at a blow, but it will take a while
to bend it. And just because
swiftly passing disasters have little permanent
effect in moulding our wills,
it is a blessing, and not an evil, to have some
standing fact in our lives,
which will make a continual demand upon us for
continually repeated acts
of bowing ourselves beneath His sweet, though it
may seem severe, will. God’s
love in Jesus Christ can give us nothing
better than the opportunity
of bowing our wills to His, and saying, ‘Not
mine, but Thine be done.’
If that is why lie stops on the other side of
Jordan, and does not come
even to the loving messages of beloved hearts,
then He shows His love in
the sweetest and the loftiest form. So, dear
friends, if you carry a
lifelong sorrow, do not think that it is a mystery why
it should lie upon your
shoulders when there are omnipotence and an
infinite heart in the heavens.
If it has the effect of bending you to His
purpose, it is the truest
token of His loving care that He can send. In like
manner, is it not worth
carrying a weight of unfulfilled wishes, and a
weariness of unalleviated
sorrows, if these do teach us three things, which
are one thing — faith, endurance,
prayerfulness, and so knit us by a
threefold cord that cannot
be broken, to the very heart of God Himself?
II. This delayed help
always comes at the right time.
Do not let us forget that
Heaven’s clock is different from ours. In our day
there are twelve hours,
and in God’s a thousand years. What seems long to
us is to Him ‘a little while.’
Let us not imitate the shortsighted impatience
of His disciples, who said,
‘What is this that He saith, A little while? We
cannot tell what He saith.’
The time of separation looked so long in
anticipation to them, and
to Him it had dwindled to a moment. For two
days, eight-and-forty hours,
He delayed His answer to Mary and Martha,
and they thought it an eternity,
while the heavy hours crept by, and they
only said, ‘It’s very weary,
He cometh not, they said.’ How long did it look
to them when they had got
Lazarus back?
The longest protraction of
the fulfilment of the most yearning expectation
and fulfilled desire will
seem but as the winking of an eyelid when we get
to estimate duration by
the same scale by which He estimates it, the scale
of Eternity. The ephemeral
insect, born in the morning and dead when the day fades, has a still minuter
scale than ours, but we should not think of
regulating our estimate
of long and short by it. Do not let us commit the
equal absurdity of regulating
the march of His providence by the swift
beating of our timepieces.
God works leisurely because God has eternity to
work in.
The answer always comes at
the right time, and is punctual though
delayed. For instance, Peter
is in prison. The Church keeps praying for him;
prays on, day after day.
No answer. The week of the feast comes. Prayer is
made intensely and fervently
and continuously. No answer. The slow hours
pass away. The last day
of his life, as it would appear, comes and goes. No
answer. The night gathers;
prayer rises to heaven. The last hour of the last
watch of the last night
that he had to live has come, and as the veil of
darkness is thinning, and
the day is beginning to break, ‘the angel of the
Lord shone round about him.’
But there is no haste in his deliverance. All
is done leisurely, as in
the confidence of ample time to spare, and perfect
security. He is bidden to
arise quickly, but there is no hurry in the stages of
his liberation. ‘Gird thyself
and bind on thy sandals.’ He is to take time to
lace them. There is no fear
of the quaternion of soldiers waking, or of there
not being time to do all.
We can fancy the half-sleeping andwholly bewildered
Apostle fumbling at the
sandal-strings, in dread of some movement rousing his guards, and the calm
angel face looking on. The sandals fastened, he is bidden to put on his
garments and follow. With equal leisure and orderliness he is conducted
through the first and the second guard of sleeping soldiers, and then through
the prison gate. He might have been lifted at once clean out of his dungeon,
and set down in the house where many were gathered praying for him. But
more signal was the demonstration of power which a deliverance so gradual
gave, when it led him slowly past all obstacles and paralysed their power.
God is never in haste. He never comes too soon nor too late. ‘The Lord
shall help them, and that right early.’ Sennacherib’s army is round the
city, famine is within the walls. To-morrow will be too late. But to-night
the angel strikes, and the enemies are all dead men. So God’s delay makes
the deliverance the more signal and joyous when it is granted. And though
hope deferred may sometimes make the heart sick, the desire, when it comes,
is a tree of life.
III. The best help is
not delayed.
The principle which we have
been illustrating applies only to one half —
and that the less important
half — of our prayers and of Christ’s answers. For in regard to spiritual
blessings, and our petitions for fuller, purer, and
diviner life, there is no
delay. In that region the law is not ‘He abode still
two days in the same place,’
but ‘Before they call I will answer, and while
they are yet speaking I
will hear.’ If you have been praying for deeper
knowledge of God, for lives
liker His, for hearts more filled with the Spirit,
and have not had the answer,
do not fall back upon the misapplication of
such a principle as this
of my text, which has nothing to do with that
region; but remember that
the only reason why good people do not
immediately get the blessings
of the Christian life for which they ask lies in
themselves, and not at all
in God. ‘Ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask
and have not, because’ —
not because of delays, but because — ‘ye ask
amiss,’ or because, having
asked, you get up from your knees and go
away, not looking to see
whether the blessing is coming down or not.
Ah! there is a sad amount
of lying and hypocrisy in prayers for spiritual
blessings. Many petitioners
do not want to have them. They would not
know what to do with them
if they got them. They make the requests
because their fathers did
so before them, and because these are the right
kind of things to say in
a prayer. Such prayers get no answers. It a man
prays for some spiritual
enlargement, and then goes out into the world and
lives clean contrary to
his prayers, what right has he to say that God delays
His answers? No, He does
not delay His answers, but we push back His
answers, and the gift that
is given we will not take. Let us remember that
the two halves of the divine
dealings are not regulated by the same
principle, though they be
regulated by the same motive; and that the love
which often delays for our
good, in regard to the desires that have
reference to outward things,
is swift as the lightning to answer every
petition which moves within
the circle of our spiritual life.
‘Whatsoever things ye desire,
when ye stand praying, believe that’ then and
there ‘ye receive them’;
and the undelaying God will take care that ‘you
shall have them.’
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